Q: How can I help my 15-year-old son feel more confident around girls his age? And in the process of serving others, they begin to focus less on themselves and build more confidence. One thing you might try, then, is to encourage your son to join a club or organization that is service-oriented. As your son gets involved in one of these groups, encourage him to develop some non-romantic friendships with girls to whom he isn't necessarily attracted. Q: When should my husband and I stop showering with our toddler-age children and changing clothes in front of them?