DEAR MISS MANNERS: My sister-in-law sent my husband $1,200 and told him to spend it on clothes and stuff for himself. For the past three months, I have been working 80 hours a week to support us. I feel that he should not accept the gift if it is tied to how she wants it spent. I work very hard to support us, and to have them dictate how to spend a gift of cash is creating a huge rift between us. Every time Miss Manners believes she has completed her list of reasons for disliking cash as presents, a Gentle Reader is kind enough to provide another.