No one is good at sex when he or she is a virgin, of course. I’ve been with Tom for over five years and have had an orgasm during sex exactly 3 times. Signed,Woman Wanting Good SexDEAR WOMAN WANTING GOOD SEX: No, you’re not being selfish. The more he feels like he’s performing like a sex god, the more he’s going to want to continue and get you off. Make it about how he’s getting you off, not the toy; the toy is nothing without him.