DEAR PARTY TIME: Do more research to make sure that the guidelines continue to allow for small gatherings of 10 or fewer outdoors. Suggest that the two of you attend the party -- from a distance -- so that you can monitor their distancing. DEAR HARRIETTE: Now that the election is over, I thought I would feel better. Volunteering politically and also with community organizations can help you to feel useful during this period. (Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams.