They didn’t want her to learn ASL, either, but she did and chose to attend a deaf college and continue to sign. She met her fiance there, who is from a large, supportive deaf family. I also met my fiance at college, he is from a very large family of deaf people. Everyone he knows even in his far extended family is deaf, HOH, CODA or SODA and everyone is fluent in sign. Whereas my fiancé’s huge extended family who are all deaf or sign fluently will be there and most of our friends are deaf or know sign.