DEAR ABBY: My 63-year-old mother has recently been diagnosed with stage-4 metastatic lung cancer. In her words, why should she prolong her life by another year, especially if it causes more side effects and won't cure her? How can I help him come to terms with Mom's decision, and do you recommend any resources? -- SON/BROTHER IN CALIFORNIADEAR SON/BROTHER: I firmly believe in a person's right to make their own decision when it comes to continuing or discontinuing treatment for a terminal illness. For free resources regarding your mom's decision, visit www.compassionandchoices.org.