GENTLE READER: If you will first kindly explain to Miss Manners what is so terrible about being considered prudish and stuffy. But as you asked for an alternative, Miss Manners suggests, “I’m afraid you are about to offend our French friends. GENTLE READER: By resisting the temptation to deliver a lecture in return for an offer of hospitality. DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it rude for a person to ask what a student's grades are? And as hugs were overused, Miss Manners is not sorry to see them go as a routine greeting, but she will miss handshakes.