“When does the mess stop being “mess” and start being a symptom of mental illness. Happy wife, happy life. “When the roaches start getting bold.” Somedays I just wake up and go “this is disgusting” and I clean up. It’s usually when my things start to become to stimulating, like I’m looking at too many things at once. “As a lifelong “messy person”, 13 years ago I fell in love with someone who is OCD.