DEAR MISS MANNERS: We have a household member who has very bad manners. We don’t even try to plant flowers or grow a garden because he ruins any landscaping he sees. Sometimes, when I am ready to turn in for the night, I will find him asleep in my bed! I swear, if he pees on another bush during a family walk, I just might lose it. He doesn’t sound all that lovable to Miss Manners, but then, she is not his parent.