DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My husband is always defending his “little” brother, “Paul”, whenever I or his mom complain that it always seems like Paul’s “back problems” flare up whenever we could use a hand with some manual labor. My husband, who has bad knees, ends up taking it all on, so Paul doesn’t have to. So my husband, my 70-year-old father-in-law, and I moved the two feet of snow out of the driveway and off the front walk. I want to tell my jerk of a brother-in-law off, but my husband doesn’t want me to. STEAMED SILDEAR STEAMED SIL: While I don’t blame you for being angry, I’d let your mother- and father-in-law handle this one.