She is beautiful, and smart and everything, but I’m not actually attracted to her, or in love with her. So, what I’m really wondering is can I make myself fall in love with, or at least feel more attracted to her? I really, really don’t. You want to believe that you’re attractive to others and having someone to date is a sort of proof that hey, you’re actually pretty awesome after all! When you can’t love and accept yourself, it’s much, MUCH harder to accept or receive love from others.