DEAR MISS MANNERS: We just received wonderful news: Our 34-year-daughter and her husband are expecting their first child. What really galls me is that I’ve told a few people my daughter is pregnant and they actually said to me, “Is she going to be OK? I think they are rude and make it sound like my daughter is “damaged” in some way. GENTLE READER: As you have discovered, it is a bad idea to ask such people to explain, because then they do. The civil way to do this is to respond to their words, not their meaning.