DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend has been looking for a new job for a while, and she finally got a job as a server at a high-end bar and restaurant. The problem is that she wasn’t totally honest with me about what kind of job it actually is. I know how hard it was for her to get this job, but I'm really not comfortable with it. -- DeceivedDEAR DECEIVED: Your girlfriend probably didn’t tell you the details of her job because she was afraid you would react exactly as you have. That has meant looking outside of their fields of study, interests or aptitudes at times.