I usually reject them since I’m really not looking for that right now, but how do I do it without being a huge dick? I’m not asking this to be a dick or bag on nerd guys for not understanding women, but because it actually ties into the whole “friend zone someone without being a dick about it” dynamic. A classmate or casual friend is, in fact, making overtures of moving from friendship to something more. Cutting them off — like you did with another friend of yours — tells them that you don’t like them or that you were bothered by their interest. So if you want to become friends or continue being friends… treat them like a friend.