DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve got an odd relationship problem that I feel awful about and could really use some guidance. Recently I’ve been finding myself less interested in the sexual aspect of our relationship and I find myself fantasizing about the earlier part of our relationship. I feel like asking him to role play being a nervous awkward virgin again would just be really uncomfortable for him. So let’s talk about sex, fetishes, and how to talk to your partner about what you need. First and foremost, getting an erotic charge about being the more experienced partner and teaching them about sex is fairly common.