We’ve never been in a relationship before -- we’ve always just been long-distance friends. It was so wonderful, but he told me that even though he loved and enjoyed our time together, he's been in a long-distance relationship before and it did not go well, so he doesn’t want to be in a long-distance relationship with me. Despite this, we speak much more frequently now and have basically continued on with a relationship without actually having the titles of boyfriend or girlfriend. -- Long DistanceDEAR LONG DISTANCE: If you want this relationship to be different, you have to request it and be willing to walk away if you can’t have it. If not, let him go and create space for someone who wants to be more than a modern-day pen pal.