DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I have been seeing a lady I met at work. The biggest drawback to my wanting to get too serious is that she is so involved with her grandkids that they always come first, no matter what. They’re good people, and the kids are a pleasure to be around when we take them out to parks or for ice cream. Am I wrong in wanting to have some priority in the life of the woman I’m coming to love? NOT INTO PLAYING SECOND FIDDLEDEAR NOT INTO PLAYING SECOND FIDDLE: You shouldn’t feel that this is some kind of rivalry.