Together we can work out a plan to try to balance your work and life, maybe that means some time off, or a reduced workload for a bit. As empathetic as I try to be, I do still have a team to run and work doesn’t stop. Best thing to do imo is just communicate and if people don’t listen then you need find somewhere else to work. But those same managers I look back and they were the best managers I’ve had. Of course realistically your personal life comes before work performance…but some jobs have no wiggle room (brain surgeon for example).