And if too many years go by in a relationship without The Decision being made, society decides that something must be wrong. This is a beautiful way to make The Decision when you’re in a strong, healthy relationship, and a tragedy when you’re not. If you’re typically a brain person, when it comes to The Decision, you want to try to not be you. Unable to come to a trustworthy conclusion, the brain person becomes a Paralyzed Pre-Marriage Relationship Person. And making a black-and-white binary decision about something that’s anything but black-and-white is kind of an insane thing to do.