Women, what red flags do you regret overlooking in the early days of a relationship? Those comments made me feel good at the time, but then I realized it was his way of saying that actually no woman was good enough for him.”4. “He didn’t like me telling mutual friends about our relationship because he was a private person. “Anger issues/”having a temper”/explosive outbursts of anger when things didn’t go his way/lashing out physically and verbally when upset. I thought it was pretty obvious from having even one conversation with me and didn’t feel the need to say “I’m a feminist”.